What is parental burnout?
Found along the stress-depression continuum, parental burnout is a state of physical, emotional and mental exhaustion that can occasionally be experienced by caregivers of every kind. It is important to note that, despite the misinformation surrounding it, parental burnout is not a passing fad or a convenient label for ordinary parenting pressures, but a scientifically recognised condition that is a direct result of overwhelming responsibilities and stress.
Parental burnout symptoms
Parental burnout often manifests itself as a sense of emotional depletion, but there are other signs to look out for as well. Some common symptoms of parental burnout include:
- Persistent feelings of exhaustion, even after restful sleep
- Increased irritability or impatience with children
- Emotional detachment or numbness towards parenting responsibilities
- Loss of interest in activities previously enjoyed
- Difficulty concentrating or making parenting-related decisions
- Physical symptoms including headaches, muscle tension and gastrointestinal problems.
Support and resources
If you’re experiencing symptoms of parental burnout, it’s essential to seek support as quickly as possible and access resources to help you navigate the inevitable challenges. Here are some helpful steps you can take.
Parental burnout NHS guidance
According to the NHS, self-care is important to prevent parental burnout. This is why – prior to pursuing any medical intervention – it is advisable to first seek to minimise stress. You can do so by:
- Practising self-help techniques such as mindfulness, meditation and cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT)
- Embracing the power of positive thinking by making daily lists of things you're grateful for
- Breaking down complex tasks into easier, more manageable pieces
- Becoming more active by taking up swimming, cycling or similar activities
- Talking to friends and family about your mental health
- Planning ahead whenever possible.
Other ways to manage burnout
If after completing the steps above, you still find yourself experiencing burnout, additional help is available if needed.
- Reach out to your healthcare provider or mental health professional for assessment and guidance
- Explore support groups and online resources that can help you address parental burnout
- Consider respite foster care services to provide temporary relief and support
- Work together with your partner or co-parent, openly communicating your feelings and needs.
Remember you are not alone
Whether you're a parent, foster parent or carer, understanding parental burnout is essential for not only maintaining personal wellbeing, but providing the best possible care for your child.
This is a common and understandable condition, but it’s essential to recognise its symptoms and be willing to ask for help if needed. By understanding its underlying causes, accessing resources and above all prioritising self-care, caregivers can overcome burnout whilst remaining supportive and nurturing to children.
Thank you to David at Compass Fostering for this article.